Definitely, as the book Don't Believe Everything You Think says, it happened to me.
I thought I was important to someone, that I had a place in their life, that the story included me somehow. But reality surprised me with something different: I was left lost, watching, like in the movie My Best Friend's Wedding, waiting for a scene that never came. Nobody ran after me.

Harsh, but true.

Sometimes we let ourselves be led astray by our minds, by that voice that insists on making us believe that if we give, if we wait, if we hold on a little longer, that person will choose us. And deep down, all we're doing is postponing our own lives.

The most common mistake is thinking that our value depends on someone else recognizing it. But the truth is different: our value doesn't need external validation.
The right person won't make us doubt, won't put us on hold, won't leave us watching their life go by without including us.

Sometimes we idealize that romantic scene where everyone runs after the person they love. But when we turn around and see that no one is following us, the blow is devastating. That's when we understand that the movie we were acting in only existed in our minds, and that reality demands a different script: one where we ourselves walk forward, even if no one is following us, with our heads held high and our hearts open to something real.

The hard part is accepting that sometimes we invest years, energy, and love in someone who was never going to give us what we needed. And although that hurts, it's also an opportunity: the opportunity to wake up.

Because when we stop waiting for someone who won't come, we begin to see all the opportunities we have in front of us: the peace of being with ourselves, the beauty of new paths, the possibility of opening ourselves to real, honest, and present connections.

Today I repeat to myself: Don't believe everything you think.
The mind can deceive, but the heart knows.
And my heart deserves more: it deserves truth, it deserves reciprocity, it deserves true love.

By:

Sheila Sandoval