Parental figures

Every human being needs a mother figure and a father figure. Our desire as mothers is that our children reach their full potential.  full well-being, and for that they need those two parental figures, whom  admire and respect.

Still in  families  where the parents do not live together, they can still be their role models if  They live with them regularly. However, in families where the father is absent, the mother must ensure that her children are already girls.  Children should have close contact with a father figure. It doesn't matter if it's a grandfather, uncle, godfather, or close friend. What's important is that a model of masculinity is present. Likewise, if the children live with their father, he should ensure they also have a maternal figure present. This is also important for children from an early age.  can differentiate between sexual and gender roles.

 As mothers, we can strive for the father figure to be the role model our children need. There will definitely be times when we must take a step back and allow the father figure to provide that guidance. Scientific studies say that  a woman is usually a role model  loving and sensitive, and that man is the model of autonomy and independence.

 For all human beings, parents are a role model when it comes to forming their own families. In the case of daughters, if there is a healthy relationship with their father,   she could  choosing a husband that possesses all the positive characteristics of his father and distances himself of the negative ones. A common saying goes that the father should treat his daughters like princesses so that they learn how they should be treated.   But if the relationship was unhealthy, a daughter may end up choosing someone with the negative characteristics of her father.  This is because she  psychologically desires to find their father again to fill the void he may have left, especially if he was an absent father.

 For their part, children who had a good relationship with their father will seek  They become like their parents, not only copying positive personality traits but even the way they treat women. Conversely, if they had a negative relationship with their  Father, the children will fight to be different from them, even denying their own identity.

Therefore, for the emotional development of human beings, it is not only necessary for parents to be present,  but rather that the relationship be healthy, cordial and wholesome. 

 But how can we inherit healthy relationships? 

It's simple. We can model a healthy relationship with our own parents.

But how can we maintain  a healthy relationship with our parents?

●      Accepting  to our parents with their qualities and their flaws. Remember that they, in addition to playing the role of parents,  They are human beings with strengths and weaknesses.

●      Being eternally grateful to our parents for everything they had to do and stop doing to educate, care for, and feed us.

●      Remembering that we will become an essential reference and role model in the development of our children's lives when they are adults, both in their social relationships and in their personal lives.  familiar.

 Therefore, healing is worthwhile.  communicate, and  to live fully in the NOW so that we can be the best role models for our children. 

 A mother with her unconditional and unprejudiced love will be able to let  A man can be the male role model his children need to fully develop. Be humble and let someone else teach your beloved son or daughter what you can't teach them, even if you want to.    

Ms. Meiby Lisset  Argueta de Pérez

Clinical Psychologist. Master's degrees in Education and Social Sciences

Certified TNS Therapist

Montessori Guide Certified by MACTE
Fb: Montessori 4U