Marriage was once a dream. Today, for many, it has become a warning.

Newer generations no longer want to get married. They say they don't believe in "forever," that they prefer to live in the present without ties, without papers, without promises. But is it really fear of commitment... or accumulated disappointment?

The figure of the pursuer —the one who arrives full of hope, who commits, who builds—is becoming extinct. In his place appears the hunter —with a Z—: the one who collects conquests, flees from real connection, and seeks validation externally. He doesn't build, he consumes. He doesn't give himself, he plays. He doesn't marry, he hides.

And it's not just men. This model of quick, superficial, fleeting relationships has contaminated everyone. We live in a culture that pushes us toward disposability, even in love. And when infidelity is normalized, when it becomes a meme or an excuse, marriage loses its essence.

Marriage shouldn't be a trap, but an act of courage. It's not signing a contract; it's deciding to walk together, even when it would be easy to let go. But that decision weighs heavily when we see breakups, betrayals, and double lives all around us. When those who promised to stay were the first to run away.

That's why many people no longer want to get married. Because before saying "I do," they've seen too many "I didn't make it." And instead of looking for real love, they prefer not to take the risk.

But here's the key takeaway: it's not marriage that's failing, it's how we experience it . Love didn't break down; we broke it. Out of fear, ego, or because we didn't know how to heal.

Perhaps it's time to stop hunting... and get married again. Not with suits or designer labels, but with truth, with respect, with a desire to be better. Because, in the end, it's not about being with someone... but about being someone worth staying with.

“Love is patient, love is kind… it bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”
— 1 Corinthians 13:4,7