A woman at home is shaping him, while preparing breakfast, while comforting a tantrum, while telling a story at the bedside, while pausing to look into the eyes of the sad child and saying, "I understand how you feel," while talking about consent, about respect, without pressure but with firmness.

That woman is you, who every morning does something to give the world a better man.

We women make the change every day because with our patience and love, we gradually create that little person; we don't need strong men, we need men who know what to do with their strength.

May that strength become love, dedication, responsibility.

Our responsibility as women and mothers is not only to teach them how to dress, sleep, and eat, but to teach them true strength.

In an era where respectful parenting is confused with "glass" parenting, it's about demonstrating that we're not creating princes, we're raising men capable of seeing women as equals, who understand that emotions, colors, and chores are not gendered, but simply part of being HUMAN.

The men of the future need brave mothers today, women who dare to talk about emotions, about taboo subjects, about not suppressing tears, about teaching self-care, about consent, about personal space, and no longer rewarding aggression as strength.

As women and mothers, we must teach our young men to apologize and  We talk about frustration, and we teach all of this by example. Our children don't need perfect mothers, they need real and sensitive mothers. It's not that we are weak.  Or that we are not strong enough, the reality is that without our good and real example, we will not leave the truth of life in our children.

This is a mother of a boy and a girl writing to you, and I have to say, when my second daughter was born, I realized I had a lot of healing to do. Many mothers raise their children with unresolved childhood wounds, and we raise them based on those wounds, thinking about our own parents, siblings, and even partners.

I'm sharing this short article with you so you can see that you're not just a mother, but the true catalyst for change in society. Evaluate your relationship with your child and consider what you need to demonstrate and do to make an impact on them as well.

 I also want to share some micro-actions that will help you change the generation

1. Teach household chores not as "help" but as shared responsibility
2. Talking about respect through play
3. Explain the NO
4. Telling stories and tales with female and male protagonists who break stereotypes
5. Create spaces for active listening so that they can talk about what they feel, without judgment.

 Raising a man is, perhaps, one of the most revolutionary feminist acts a woman can do out of love.

Finally, I want to leave you with this mantra, you who give your all every day to raise your child:

 He's not a hero: he's a good man

He won't be famous. He might not appear in history books. But he will be the man who doesn't repeat patterns, the one who doesn't take for granted that someone will take care of him or do everything for him, the one who will know how to care, act, and solve problems.

 He who does not run away from tenderness.
 The one who doesn't need to dominate to feel strong.
 The one who sees women as allies, not as rivals or prizes.

That man didn't become himself. Someone raised him. And that someone is you.

Find lots of female empowerment and motherhood on my Instagram social network , Mamá que brota, where we seek our best version as a community and find balance between woman and mother.

May Barrera

Postpartum coach and specialist in maternal support