We all have tables in many aspects of our lives. Why tables?

Because they have four legs or pillars. These support a board; the board is you, and the legs are self-esteem (self-love, emotional balance), family (home and blood relatives), partner, and personal fulfillment (friends, work, and profession).

Self-esteem

Let's start with self-esteem. This encompasses many aspects, beginning with self-love. This is simply learning to love ourselves, to know ourselves, to accept ourselves, to accept our bodies, our way of being, and to learn that it's never too late to change, to be better, to grow. We can do this through self-knowledge and by being completely honest with ourselves about our weaknesses. Reading and seeking professional help can be beneficial. Remember that we are human beings who are constantly changing and capable of learning from both good and bad experiences. Becoming better human beings is the goal of life.

On a spiritual level, we all have beliefs, and I'm not just referring to religion, which is also an important factor. The key is learning that we depend on believing in an omnipotent being who watches over us, and with all of this, we achieve emotional balance. We find an inner strength that helps us overcome any circumstance, knowing that we've already worked on those inner aspects that show us we're capable of always moving forward. You can do it!

Family 

This is an important factor at our table, why? Well, because this group includes our immediate family—parents, siblings, etc.—but also our children. We must learn that all these people are equally important. Our immediate family are the role models we are born into, our extended family includes those we live with—siblings, cousins, aunts, uncles—and with whom we grow up during our formative years, and finally, our children, with whom we have a story to tell, giving us the opportunity to do things better.

We must remember that we don't have to repeat stories that have been harmful to our lives; it gives us the opportunity to further cleanse our hearts, learn to forgive, and grow as human beings, helping to form mentally and emotionally healthy people.

Couple

It's a very important part, why? It's the feeling that provides us with a great deal of emotional balance. This is because we deserve someone who will be our ideal partner, a companion, friend, and lover, who influences our growth and is our biggest cheerleader, and we theirs. Ideally, we want a friend to lean on and to enjoy life with as a couple. If we don't have this, but we do have a partner, it means we're incomplete in that area. If we're not satisfied, it's time to take action, because this is the very least we deserve.

Personal Fulfillment 

This pillar is important, not the most important thing, but nothing is more important than being satisfied with oneself. In the professional or academic sphere, there is nothing more rewarding than achieving success in what we have worked hard for, whether it be a university degree, a technical profession, a trade, or any acquired knowledge. It is essential to be able to get ahead through our knowledge and to know that we can depend on it for an economically independent life, which allows us to fulfill ourselves as complete women. Here we also find the friendships that enrich our lives by participating in our daily lives, who are always there for the most important moments—sad, happy—and share them with us. We must remember that we all need people around us because, as humans, we need companionship; we are inherently social beings.

Remember that if one of the legs is not strong enough, you run the risk of falling.

That is why we must work on our pillars or legs, since we are the board that rests on them, and we must decide if we want to be standing tall and triumphant on it or if we want to be underneath that board just taking cover.

You, strong woman full of light and energy, I wish to see you always triumphant, full of happiness, love and joy, full of emotions and always on top.

Written by Claudia Hernández, Esq.