We live in a society that celebrates the warrior woman, a culture where women are expected to be tireless and always ready to help. But there's a big difference between a warrior woman, as she's often called, and a resilient woman.

Often, we take pride in identifying with a warrior woman, a fighter, one who is tireless, strong, and carries the burden of all those who need help on her shoulders; the warrior woman who forgets herself to give her life for others, the one who doesn't know how to give up and fights against everything to help others succeed. But we haven't realized that this woman, in that strong role,  She possibly lives behind a childhood wound that continues to ache silently, and of which she is unaware, a wound that has developed in her a strong personality, but above all, a belief that limits her and It makes her not think about herself, a belief that leads her to believe she doesn't deserve to enjoy herself, now Living to please, a force that is nothing more than the result of circumstances that led her from an early age to perform a job that was not for her, because what she needed was care and protection, and to do what every girl has a right to: to play and feel loved.

This warrior woman may be the result of experiencing injustice, as she played a role that did not correspond to her as a child and yet was still in charge of caring for Others see her as a woman who put her childhood on hold to take on the role of an adult, since adults They were absent; she is the girl who learned to be loved and valued. Because of the things she does, not because of who she is. Don't misunderstand me, I'm not saying it's wrong to be brave and fight. What I mean is that there's a big difference between a warrior woman and a resilient woman. A resilient woman is one who doesn't live from a place of hurt. Being aware of it, she has learned to make decisions that make her happy and lead her to heal each day. She doesn't allow the beliefs that led her to forget herself to continue controlling her life. She is a woman who already  She doesn't feel the burden of guilt or the hurtful weight of rejection, and who now does not put aside his own life to live for others, but through his struggle to be better he inspires others.

The resilient woman has learned to set boundaries that not only protect her, but also those she loves. as well as those who seek and demand it More than she can give, she is that woman who puts herself first not out of selfishness but to be well herself, to work on herself and thus and be able to help without guilt To others, the resilient woman lives and learns from her mistakes and falls so as not to repeat them and to grow; the resilient woman  She does not live in the shadow of the past, because she no longer lives in the role of a victim due to rejection. Because this is precisely what makes us think that we should paying a price for our happiness, feeling rejection or guilt, guilt for not being enough, and doing everything or more than is possible to be approved or valued,  This is precisely what  that the woman  warrior forgets and that makes her living in an endless cycle of struggle that wears her down, that makes her ask permission to live and enjoy, that leads her to sacrifice everything that is good for her, because he thinks he has no right, since it was the role he learned, and he won't let go of it.

A resilient woman is strong, but she doesn't carry the weight of the world on her shoulders; she is strong because she learned to say no in order not to burden herself so much, and because when she feels so tired   May that tiredness prevent him from hugging and giving love.

The resilient woman looks to the past, takes the lesson learned, and lets go of the pain, and thus she grows. She grows because now there is no resentment, for she has learned that in life you cannot recover lost time, but you can make different decisions to take advantage of the time you have today. The resilient woman lives in forgiveness, knowing that in this life we ​​are all the result of our beliefs and the information we have inherited or received from being exposed to certain circumstances.

The resilient woman dreams, and she knows that within her lie the elements, the God-given abilities to reach her full potential and make her life an example of perseverance and strength, believing that one can travel paths, but also that one can create new ones when the known ones are blocked.  The resilient woman not only rewrites her story, but transcends it and  It changes the history of its generations, breaking cycles of pain and suffering when it is consistent between what it really wants and what it does.

By:

Raquel Godoy

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