Becoming a mother completely changed my life. I love being a mother to a boy and a girl, and now, as a mother myself, I can tell you that I never realized that my mother also suffered like me, with emotional burdens, silences, and doubts.

 My example was my mom and I could say that she handled all those emotions very well until I noticed it was a little older than a girl, and now that I feel like this, I would like to hug her and tell her that she didn't have to carry it alone.

The emotions that we usually keep quiet are:

●      Guilt: feeling inadequate or thinking that we could always do more.

●      Extreme tiredness: that physical and mental exhaustion that we don't always recognize.

●      Frustration: not being in control of everything and accepting that motherhood is not as imagined. 

●      Sadness: feeling nostalgic for life before becoming a mother or missing our independence.

●      Fear: Fear of failing as a mother or that our children will suffer.

●      Rage: Moments when patience runs out, but social judgment doesn't allow us to express it.

 And we keep quiet about it because we want to see ourselves as heroines, because there is social pressure to see ourselves as perfect mothers, because of the fear of being judged or not being understood, or sometimes the belief of "sacrificing ourselves" for others, but no, we are not saviors.

 After several months of therapy, books, and direct advice to mothers, I can leave you with these tips so that you can feel a little free of those emotions.

• First, acknowledging your emotions without guilt will help a lot.
• Secondly, you can look for a support network that helps you at the moment, such as therapy, friends, or motherhood groups.
• Third (the most difficult and important): cry, ask for help, and rest.
• Fourth, use aromatherapy and essential oils; the latter can help you connect with yourself, rest well, and lift your mood. Remember to always choose the best options on the market (I can help you with this last one).

 With this article I would like to tell you that according to my statistics, of the mothers I have treated throughout my career, 93% suffer from this, and this includes my own mother.

 If you have a daughter, remember that she is always watching you, and that it is worth making the change, because you don't know the impact you will have on her life.

 To you who are reading this, who may not know me or my work, I want to tell you that you are not alone. I understand you, I hear you.

 Even if you feel like nobody sees you, you do see yourself, and you are the most important one.

 If you could say out loud how you feel today, what would be the first thing you would share?

 On my Instagram @mamaquebrota you can find a lot of emotional support for mothers, be sure to follow me.

May Barrera

Instagram: @mamaquebrota