In addition to working on the three axes raised in the first part of this article, which I consider fundamental to being mothers who catalyze goals, I also think it is important to analyze the way in which we transmit that training to our children.

“People learn better from example than from words.”

Possibly, we had the experience of growing up in overprotective environments, or in family dynamics with unhealthy attachments. I'm not saying this from a place of judgment, but from the conscious understanding that the type of upbringing our grandparents and parents received was different; in the end, they gave us what they knew, with the tools they had.

However, I believe it is a conscious choice to want to break patterns and practice motherhood focused on facilitating the path for our children, respecting their essence, without trying to make them become what we have dreamed of, but rather, desiring with all our being to see them become what they have dreamed of and celebrate together the achievement of each of their goals:

1. Healing the Past: “A mother who seeks healing, heals her children and her children’s children .” Working on ourselves, seeking help to heal and forgive the past, allows us to live our present more consciously, opens the possibility of creating a better future, and leaves a legacy of healing.

2. Breaking down beliefs: human beings are born as a blank canvas that is gradually painted with many colors: the color of family, the color of culture, the color of society, the color of education; we fill ourselves with beliefs that we have inherited from our environment, which, in turn, we pass on to our children.

A mother who questions her beliefs and has the courage to tear down those that limit her is teaching her children that change is always possible, that the past does not define us, that we are free beings with the ability to create everything we believe can help us be better people, regardless of whether for years we have believed that change was not possible, recognizing that, burdened with so many "shoulds" and "be perfect," we have not allowed ourselves to be.

3. Believing in our dreams: when a mother heals the past, tears down limiting beliefs and builds on new beliefs that help her strengthen herself as a human being, she teaches her children to believe in themselves and fight to achieve their dreams, because she has seen her mother do the same, she has learned by example and not by a lecture.

Finally, it's important to highlight that by becoming mothers who catalyze goals, we begin to generate changes not only in our way of thinking, but also in how we speak, feel, and act. With this shift in mindset, we incorporate empowering and affirming words into our vocabulary: "You can do it," "You've always succeeded," "You are unique," "I believe in you."

Our emotions are also positively impacted, allowing us to experience emotions that have a positive impact on those of our children: joy, tranquility, peace.

“Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6

As mothers, we must trust in the loving work we have done in the education and training of our children, watching them grow and fly their own flights, with the certainty that what was sown from early childhood will bear fruit in adulthood.

Erika Barrientos

Marketing professional / Master Life and Corporate Coach