Finding a balance between managing the house, family, and professional life  It's not easy at all. Talking with some mothers, we've come to the conclusion that society continues to assign us these roles.  many roles because we can perform them better than anyone else. 

For example,  If children get sick, it's the mothers who take them to the doctor because they understand medical details better. Women are the ones who cook at home because their food is delicious, and women are the ones who attend school appointments because they are better at communicating with teachers.  This  It's so clear,  that  Many women, after a marital separation, remain in charge of their children because they can take better care of them.

 Then the weight falls on our shoulders and we believe we are superpowers  and that we must do it even if it requires sacrifice  health,  socialization, dreams, etc.  At some point we thought that we should do  Working from home could help, but in many cases it has complicated life a bit more. Especially,  to women who have young children who cannot yet understand that their mother is physically present,  but mentally  absent.  

So the solution is to use all of those  superpowers to organize, solve,  simplify, and above all prioritize what is truly important for  You and your family without sacrificing physical, emotional, or spiritual health. We are intense; let's use that superpower to set healthy boundaries that are respected. Remember that home is your ship, and everyone must row to reach the final destination.

If you're feeling a bit overwhelmed right now, take a few minutes to analyze the following points and I assure you they will help you feel better.

Prioritize - know when to let go - plan

Take a moment to sit down and visualize what you're investing most of your time in. Observe.  If that time and effort is being invested in what's most important to you, learn to let go of what's not feasible right now. And plan long-term, if necessary, to schedule what might be worrying you.

Review preconceived ideas - heal wounds and  to program oneself mentally

Examine your thoughts, listen to your inner monologue, and forgive that person.  or yourself  for demanding things you shouldn't.  Discover where the ideas about  You have to do things until you're completely drained. Then write them down and program your brain with positive ideas that will help you be more realistic. Write them down, stick them where you'll see them, and tell your inner monologue to repeat them to you every day.

Ask for help - let go of control

Sometimes the problem with letting go of control is thinking that things won't turn out well if they're not done your way. I advise you to keep in mind that there isn't just one way to achieve the same goal. There are different ways to do the same thing. Find the way to  communicate assertively  that in a home everyone collaborates equally so that no one has health problems.

Sharpen the saw

One of Stephen Covey's principles in his book " The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People " is that we all need to stop and sharpen the saw, because if you keep cutting trees with a dull saw, you won't be effective. You'll become so exhausted that you won't be able to continue. So always find a moment to stop and give your body the physical, mental, and spiritual nourishment it needs. Think of it as needing to recharge your battery before you run out of steam halfway through.  

Something that works for  Not stressing out means reminding yourself to live in the present. If you dwell on the past, you'll burden yourself with things you don't need; if you dwell on the future, anxiety will arise.  But if you live in  In the present you will enjoy being alive, the nature that embraces you, and the people who love you.

As OOwee says about the movie " Kung Fu Panda" :

"The past is history, the future is a mystery, but today is a gift, that's why it's called the Present."

 Enjoy the present, a gift from God!

Ms. Meiby Lisset  Argueta de Pérez

Clinical Psychologist. Master's degrees in Education and Social Sciences

Certified TNS Therapist

MACTE Certified Montessori Guide
Fb: Montessori 4U